Bringing Adult Children Into the Business
What, in fact, constitutes a family business? The definition covers any enterprise operated by two or more family members, ranging from a local pizzeria to a newspaper empire. That description covers so much ground that 90% of businesses in the United States are considered family-owned, but according to Success magazine, fewer than 15% survive to the third generation. How can your family business beat the odds?
The good, the bad, and the challenges
There are ample benefits to involving your children if you apply realism and caution. In a best-case scenario, kids and parents can combine resources and capabilities to complement one another. The younger generation may bring energy, contacts and a technology-savvy approach. The parents can provide potential capital and a lifetime of work experience. At the same time, older generations may face age discrimination, while the younger ones struggle to find jobs and start their careers.
Both sides share the benefit of familiarity, trust and an understanding of overall objectives. It is noteworthy that today’s boomer generation typically experiences a more adult relationship with their children than previous generations did. Nowadays, for financial reasons, living at home with parents is common among the 18-34 age group.
But your own children may not fit the bill to take on the responsibilities of the business. They may appear to lack interest in following in the family’s footsteps, be ambivalent, or demonstrate no commitment. At this point, they may not have acquired the necessary credentials or qualifications, and there is no guarantee they will eventually do so. A conflict of interest might arise if they choose to sell the family business in order to reap a windfall sooner.
Some parents hope that a role in the family firm could provide a lifeline to wayward offspring and give them a head start to thrive. Sadly, that does not usually happen, especially if the child lacks the proclivity for hard work.
Setting up sons and daughters for success
Start the succession process as early as possible. First, you can sense who has the right aptitude and passion. If you are including your children at the early stages, be clear that you are still the decider-in-chief when it comes to planning your own financial future. By that point, hopefully, you will have inculcated the paramount values that matter most in life and business and schooled your kids in the importance of honesty, effort, responsibility, communication, organized planning, negotiation and compromise.
Encourage your children to work outside the family firm first to gain additional experience.
It is simplest if only one child is involved. Otherwise, you may need to select one — possibly, but not inevitably, the eldest. Letting multiple children compete it out might risk discord and postponements. Alternatively, you could establish a family board or council to encourage cooperation, especially if they display different skill sets.
Make sure to obtain an independent fair market valuation for the enterprise. One route is to separate buildings from the operating company, keeping the real estate as an investment for rental income. Another option is to spin off the equipment into a separate company and lease it back to the business.
To help finance your retirement, you might also sell the business to your child, or underwrite the sale yourself, and let them repay you over time. If you keep at least a 51% share in the business, you can maintain decision-making control. Spell out all loan details in writing and adhere to IRS interest rate rules. It’s best to hire professionals to handle all legal and financial issues.
Best practices
- Document everything, from roles, responsibilities and partnerships to compensation and exit strategies.
- Conduct all business at the office, not at the family dining table, which would be unfair to nonfamily employees.
- Hire from outside the family too, but treat them like family and promote them based on merit with consistent standards and training.
- Avoid perceptions of favoritism. Don’t allow your children to take advantage by working fewer hours or avoiding duties.
Show professional respect all around. A time may come when you have to defer to your child, but if you’ve invested the time and strategy systematically early on, the transition will be that much easier for all involved.
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